I've recently had the question presented to me "When and Where are Tyler and Ayris getting married?"! You cannot begin to imagine the discussion surrounding the final out come of the choice where these two have chosen to be married, yet in a Temple or not in a Temple has never been a Topic of discussion it's always been in a Temple! So I thought for those readers out there I'd like to share why "A Temple".
Amric Zane (He's my baby!) plays Rugby with the Creighton High School young men in Omaha Nebraska, they are Catholic. They talked about going out to eat together this week on Friday but it seemed pointless to them - it being Good Friday and all! Thus the belief that they only eat fish on Friday. I bring this up because it is their "thing" - something that they believe in. Amric being a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (aka; Mormon) and teased constantly and nicknamed "Stormin' Mormin" has things he believes in too. Nothing he likes more than playing Rugby but like it or not they play on Sunday he believes it's the Sabbath thus chooses to not play - it's his "thing". We all have our beliefs - our "things" we choose to believe in. Tyler choose to go on a Mission to Ohio to share with the people there the beliefs he has learned, chosen and lives in. One of those beliefs also is to be Married in a Temple. We went from Seattle to Oquirrh then to Omaha back Seattle down to Portland back to Omaha then back to Oquirrh. Being from the Northwest we wanted all of us to go back there to have this wedding, but due to expense and travel and making arrangements from so far away it bounced back to Omaha, but then we haven't lived here very long and the kids don't really know too many. Before Tyler left on his mission almost 3 years ago now, the Oquirrh Temple was having on Open House where anyone can go walk thru it so we did. Tylers mom was with us, it was Beautiful - they saw it together and so the goal, let's get married here! Plus they are going back to school in Utah so it just fits together for them and the timing - it's all about timing isn't it?!?!?!?!
Ayris was raised being taught that to be married in a Temple by someone who has the Authority "Seals you as a couple and a family for Time and All Eternity" vs til death do you part. I know that just about anyone any more can get a certificate to marry people. But in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints - Inside one of these Temple's - it is simple, beautiful and sacred - teaching us to be calm, seek learning and include God in our marriage and family. It has been taught in the scriptures from the beginning. Besides the religious factors this idea (being sealed for Time and Eternity) is the ceremony and proves out in the statistics showing less Divorce. The principle being we don't want to go into marriage thinking; this is my First one, or if this doesn't work it's over; but instead "this is it" - it's the kids' motto - "Thru thick and thin" and as my Mother taught me - "Love the one you're with, Love 'em up Good and Hard, Work it out Kelly Sue Endure it well." I like how Dory on Nemo says it too - "Just keep Swimming".
Thus the answer - We get married in the Temple to keep it simple, beautiful (without great expense) and to remind us it's sacred sealing us to each other and our family for eternity. For the most part it's our anchor and the few people that are their with us are our Links of support on Occasion we are sadly missing some of those links and work hard to connect, adhere, splice complete that missing link and include them in any and all other ways we can. Richard and I both were married in the Temple without our parents (some people don't know that about us). The Bible teaches us to leave our parents and cleave unto each other, knowing that right from the beginning creates a bond, a link, a love - a trust that is unbreakable not ever to be broken. That's the "Thing" I believe in. Families can be and are Forever - from the beginning thru this life and on to the next that's my "One Thing" I hold on to that gives me HOPE and focus and leads me to the Temple to find peace, simplicity and remind me of the love of a good man covenants of a God that loves us and is with me always! The world distracts us always attempting to tear us apart we need that extra devotion to one another and to God to keep us together. And that's my take on it!!!
