It's an Island!

NO MAN IS AN ISLAND... but New york city is!!!

I've since done more reading and become more familiar with New York City.  I get confused about the logistics but as I recall it is 13 miles long and 2 miles wide and has more than 8 million people on it!  40% of it's population being foreign born - WOW!

Our Island Tour Ship!

Yet another line to stand in 

New York Skyline

Building of one of the New Freedom Towers

silhouette of Ellis Island

Ellis Island

skyline - of buildings

New York City with 5 busy Burroughs just like Kelly and Richard with their family we are together an island bridged together to our parents, grandparents and to our children their families, stories, loves, losses, chaos, children and all around busy lives.

Statue of Liberty

Bridge to Staten Island

used to be a "Fort" but the city bought it and they are making it into a park - "soon you'll have a place to ride your bicycle"!

this is the "Fort"

Brooklyn Bridge

the bridge furthest is Brooklyn 

How do I describe this wonderful day that we enjoyed?

Long Island

The first Lunatic Hospital located on Roosevelt Island

empire state building in christmas lights

skyline at sunset

ellis island at sunset

ellis Island

statue of liberty

wall street

I was just so amazed with the buildings

  

how do they work and live like that?

Yankee stadium

bridges at sunset

 When I look back and think about 32 years of marriage, about family life about relationships, about Kelly & Richard.  I will remember this day.  This day that was chaos, and joy.  We were one, we were separate, we loved each other & the city, we cried, we laughed, we ate, held hands, enjoyed the company of our Son, we saw beauty, we were in and OUT of our comfort zone!, we felt gratitude, we ran for a taxi as one, we floated on the Hudson as one, we huddled in the freezing cold together, we were sad missing Amric and well Apryl and Ayris the grandkids too, but we expressed joy in knowing that we are together for eternity that we have hope in the Savior together.  Now not to loose you in religion or the thought of Jesus Christ I have to end with this we would not be together still after all these years and been able to enjoy all that we have had to get thru - all the chaos,  if it weren't for our Hope and belief in Redemption and that the third party in our marriage is Jesus Christ.  That has to be taken in consideration.

we are headed there next - the Empire State Building!

It's New York City ... Suck it up!

One day in January I married the man of my dreams.  32 years later he took me, after a wonderfully relaxing beautiful day of sight seeing in New York City to the top of the Empire State Building.  To preface this experience...We'd gone the day before to the top of Rockefeller Center (in the day time), he had planned to go to the top of the ROCK in the night and the Empire State building in the Day.  BUT, we were already at the Rock and we had 30 min til we had to be back down inside for a tour of the NBC Studios.  I said, lets do it now.  He was upset about that I did not understand or even take the time to understand why.  It made since to me, we were already there.  What I learned about myself on this trip to New York and the idea of marriage and working together as a couple is what I want to share.   I mean really, we have 30 min and all we have to do is take the elevator up you look out, you come back down!   My key word will be "considerate". 

See how we are together?  See how the City goes on forever behind us.

this is a view looking towards Central Park

this is a view looking at the Empire State Building
 and the new Freedom Towers

He supported me in my efforts to get more done, see more, give it the "Chevy Chase" Nat'l Vacation "look see" vs taking forever to read about all the nitty gritty details of building the dang thing or whatever else the signs said!?!?!  He was considerate.


It was very kind of him to not really be judgmental of me and go with the flow.  It wasn't as he had planned, when or how he wanted to do it.  But he supported me.

It was kinda uncaring of me to not really let him take the time to look it all over and process it all, if you know him at all.... he really takes along time to process any and every thing



       What is the point of this post???    to remind me if no one else, to be considerate.  To speak only kind words of the man of my dreams.  To love him, like he loves me.  (I'm thinking) ....    to.... well...






the point is ... I don't know, I have so much swirling around in my head and heart.  

I just wish if I could tell you anything.  I'd say see all those lights down there.  In life most of our problems are just that big, some bigger and brighter than the other, but still small and will pass you by...  

When we raced across New York from the boat in a taxi to the Empie State Building...I again wanted to just get to the top, look around and take off.   Richard wanted to read all the signs look at every poster, out every window, really?  This time he kinda got mad at me and he left me there alone on top of the empire state bldg. The Empire State Building where romance is suppose to be made, but because I was cold, I came, I saw and I was ready to go, because - I remember it being lonesome I tell you this story.  I will always remember, the feeling at the top looking out at the lights standing there all alone,  I never felt so insignificant.  So many people, so many lights, standing so high away looking over it all away from it all and yet right in the middle of it.  I waited for him to come back, I texted Ayris that he'd left me to go off and do his own thing, I got scared, I cried, I'd like to think I was patient there in the moment and let him go and enjoy - but really I was done and ready to leave.  While he just needed time to process soak it all in decide how to enjoy it, how to process all he was living thru, he himself wanting to remember it forever.  I needed to give that to him, I needed to be considerate and wait.  Uchtdorf said this just this last sunday “...If you experience such a moment, remember that in this age of information there are many who create doubt about anything and everything, at any time and every place, ... You will find even those who still claim they have evidence that the earth is flat, that the moon is a hologram, and that certain movie stars are really aliens from another planet.”

President Uchtdorf also reminded listeners that just because something is printed on paper, appears on the Internet, is frequently repeated, or has a powerful group of followers does not make it true.  “Sometimes untrue claims or information are presented in such a way that appear quite credible,” 

the link to this talk is listed below, a great talk!

 ....Wouldn't it have been nice if I could have just not let my idle, selfish, wondering mind run away with me (I won't share in a split second all the details of how really insignificant I was nor all the scenarios of where he had gone and was never coming back were)  if I could just have had the spirit with me, not let satan in to distract me with lies and just let him enjoy it, not been in such a hurry not had the attitude of "been there done that" but instead take a breathe, slow down, and suck it up... 


 to be continued!!!! ....

http://www.lds.org/general-conference/2007/04/divorce?lang=eng&query=considerate
http://www.lds.org/general-conference/1983/10/what-manner-of-men-ought-we-to-be

suck it up...

So I've had some deep thoughts, well maybe not so deep but some troubling pensive kind of thoughts the last month....  lets see where I go with this....


So I've had a long conversation or two of late with the "girls" in my life from ages 2 to 32! (well she's not 32 but it sounded better than 31!)  In doing so I keep asking myself, How do I share with them the things I want most for them to learn?  How do I tell them how much I love them? How do I explain that life is hard - suck it up - and still let them know "you'll make it, it's going to be ok"?  

You'd think I would have learned by example ..My Mom didn't "talk" to me about life being hard. Except to say "Life is Hard, and then you die", My sister and my brothers taught me "life is a B* and then you marry one"!  So thats what I got!  I'd like to be a little more clear with my progeny. It's not to say that Mom and I didn't talk cuz we talked!  It seemed to me we talked about everything - except, I still don't know why she and Daddy lived apart since I was 4 or why she married him when she only wanted all of us to go to church.  I wish she'd told me these things even it embarrassed her, YET hold on maybe I don't.  (Side note; I had a leader once who was trying to "help" me "suck it up" or get me on the right road. To understand that life is hard in doing so she spilt her "story" to me - it didn't help me nor her I don't think, she fell back into the same cycle and today I only remember that awful thing that she did.  So my philosophy has evolved into one of not telling, or "confessing" attempting to be more like alma and describe the pain it may have caused and the redemption involved without the gory details.  The goal in writing and talking is helping others stay on the right road, or at least motivating you to suck it up and circle back and getting yourself on the right road. 

So I ask again - how does one help anyone else not have to travel toooooo far down the wrong road at all, much less before they can get back on the right road or never circle back around at all?  Comments welcome of course!  I put this question out there is the "FAmiLy LetTer" and that family letter "got lost" so I got no feed back from the "four corners of the earth"!


to be continued....