Play Board Games!

"You Don't know what I look like when I'm not in love with you"Stephen VD





What does that mean really?  Are we different people when we are with Different people?  I'm thinking maybe as much as we think we don't change, maybe we do when we are "in love".  I know I use to say things like "We are who we are" and "Our peers don't affect us".  Maybe there is more to it than that. How in the heck do you trust enough to love ...


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iJjeWDvh6J0


Is it love?  the question was asked and reported here by Temma Ehrenfeld

"Well, I don't mind sounding Clintonian if I say it depends what you mean by "love."

The ancient Greeks had more than 10 words for experiences that we might call love. Eros was a combination of lust and romance. Ludus was uncommitted and playful.

So let's say we're talking about romance. The infatuation, the butterflies, the passion—all spurred on by a little neurotransmitter in our brains known as dopamine. And, yes, dopamine is the chemical behind many of life’s highs, including drug addictions (as the joke goes, “That’s why they call it dope").

That euphoria can last 17 months or more, according to research by Helen Fisher. Dopamine also stimulates the release of testosterone, the “liquor of lust,” along with the same bonding chemicals that make us protective of one another.

The quantities, timing and interactions of those big three—dopamine, testosterone and bonding chemicals--can trigger them to work synergistically or in opposition.

So, love surprises us. You might be in love and have no desire for sex. You might have detached satisfying hookups, only to discover you’re in love. Maybe you’re just friends and fall in love. Or, as the summer romance story goes, you fall in love and part with only fond memories. You can also feel lust for one person, attachment to another and romance with a third—all at the same time.

Then, to complicate matters, your brain’s chemical journey isn’t necessarily the same as your partner’s. That's why romantic love is risky: a “blissful dependency when one’s love is returned, a painful, sorrowful and often destructive craving when one’s love is spurned,” Fisher explains.

Chemistry is real..."

board game bottom left corner
Also only picture we have of this really fun evening!
 Same thing happened with
Apryl and Sean pictures lost forever
- Hold on to your pictures!!!

 ...  how do you know if it's real, what does it matter and  what do you do to keep that "other" person "acting, smelling, bonding" as always as if they are in love with you like it was 'in the beginning'"?  

One of my main answers is simple play board games!!!  Especially in day and age when there really is 'no board' any more even "board games" are played on your electronic devices not "together" to observe in the strategy, tactics  sportsmanship and reaction to THE GAME and really, isn't LOVE just another board game!!!?  We are just simple people that's for sure my example is (pictured here) when we held a wedding reception for Austin and Anona we had board games on the tables I'm glad to report that they have been happily playing board games ever since!

We are what we pretend to be so we need to be careful about what we are pretending.  Aristotle said "We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then is not an act but a habit."
And you know what they say about habits . . . "The chains of habit are too small to be felt until they are too strong to be broken."    and at times can if you don't break them, break you.

My Mother as you know had her sayings - one of them was ... "Birds of a feather flock together" but when it comes to love, lust and the games we play I'm thinkin that's not entirely true.  Opposites do attract.  Good girls do want the bad boys.  Really isn't that what they did to us in Grease - we wanted her to put on the trashy outfit - she was impatient and didn't hold out for the end of the game and see him switch from the leather jacket to the sweater. . .    but then we are back to my orignal observation who are we when we love someone.


"I believe that we are who we choose to be. Nobody's going to come and save you, you've got to save yourself. Nobody's going to give you anything; you've got to go out and fight for it. Nobody knows what you want except for you. And nobody will be as sorry as you if you don't get it. So, don't give up on your dreams."  unknown

this was my motto - "I love you not only for who YOU are, but for who I am When I'm With You."  it shouldn't be different and if it is... play a different game other wise you are going to loose and you won't like who the other person is when she/he doesn't love you

Just my thought for the day.

I feel like the inside of my body is screaming let me out!!

Brown is permanent

one side says eat the other die

a bridge to two sides

 two Rivers of shit

two sides to every story

inside and outside

bring darkness and light

take lies, truth and honesty

shove hypocrisy

this is Therapy

inside I am screaming

outside is for show

white exhales cold air

orange breathes a wind of fury

blue flows calmly by

always walk on ice

he mocks, he hates, he leaves 

Push and pull it's over

The ice cracks and melts

it moves away not caring

the shape it turns to

he asks my opinion

he jumps me, takes what he wants

yellow is so hot

look out you can see

the land is falling all 'round

the shit is flowing

please Damn the sides - Hold.

forgive with muscle and might

it's coming hard  - SCREAM!

so it can't be fixed

let go of it, let it run

emptiness will freeze

It doesn't matter 

it will drain and go away

why cant 'it be stopped?

it must be like food!

it has to run dry to not be eaten

eat to forget - die of eating.

tim mccoy!!! or is it?

One of the sides of story might be like this......

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dzlRPoyt2OA
http://youtu.be/MwpMEbgC7DA  Tom Odell Another Love You Tube it!

Getting a little of my own right back at me!!!



This kid is really on my mind today and since feb is almost over including the Tolo date picture here~!

As I was saying earlier!!! what do I do to help these two kids!!! Maybe I should try something new and back out of it VS being the Jane Austen Aunt!!! Let them see what happens without striving to explain what she said to him and What he meant when he said that to her!!!! Since I am so great at communication anyway!

Whitney having a baby shower!  So happy for her and her little family!! Love Love Love Whitney!!!

Off to Apryls....While I am with Apryl we love to watch our TV, but I especially like the way that she brings me Jane Austen and all of her weird English novels.  I could never read them, but when I watch them with her...look out, I'm in and there is no stopping our little marathon.  It's interesting too ... I like to watch and study the relationships she has with friends, men and Aunts!!! 

Austin and Anona arrived, they are doing some job interviews.  .  . woodland Hills, Downtown LA who knows where he will be this time next year?? 

I'm still at Apryl's haven't heard from anyone except Tyler.  I guess he spoils me, so I expect everyone to text me all the time, too!  But just reafirms my lesson this month in the importance of staying in contact.

The grandkids throwing books, that seems to be a big surprise since Apryl likes the book so much!??  Tonight I was suppose to babysit but Sean went with his parents vs coming home to take Apryl on her Temple Date.  When will husband (boyfriends learn!?!?!).   On another issue... Really?  Why do people think I can't keep it together?  Apryl and Sean took me to the In-Laws tonight - they pointed out to me that they prayed for me...Really?  am I that awful that I can't represent without embarrassment???  I would like to help out more, But I feel like she doesn't want or like anything that is me - the person who I am???  Today we went to a cement park and took the kids to play.  I felt like Iris and Kelly were in the car only this time it was Kelly and Apryl!  Yikes!!!  I really could delv into this more the relationship between the mother and daughter, but not tonight.  It is so much fun to be here with Vaughn and Pax, neither of them took any time at all to warm up to me.  We had tons of fun playing, reading and playing more!   Be careful how you treat your mother!!! 

I miss my family.

Feb enteries almost over.  I am learning.  I am also thinking this is a big job and wondering how Julie (Julie and Julia) ever wrote everyday AND cooked!!!!   I want to write with inspiration and not just blah blah blah my journals say this and that today.... hopefully it'll pick up!